Thursday, June 12, 2025

Loving yourself

 What’s Love for Yourself (Self-love)?


Loving yourself means:

Accepting yourself: Acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses without shame or denial.

Respecting your needs: Setting boundaries and saying no when something harms your well-being.

Caring for your body and mind: Prioritizing sleep, nutrition, rest, and your mental health.

Speaking kindly to yourself: Letting go of harsh self-criticism and replacing it with compassion.

Believing in your worth: Knowing that you deserve love, respect, and happiness—not because of what you achieve, but because you exist.


It’s not selfishness. It’s the foundation for healthy relationships with others.


How to Love Yourself (in Practice)

1. Talk to yourself like you would a dear friend.

Catch your inner critic. Replace “I’m so stupid” with “I made a mistake, and that’s okay.”

2. Accept your imperfections.

Everyone has flaws. They don’t make you unworthy. They make you human.

3. Set boundaries.

Say no to what drains you. Step away from people or situations that constantly hurt you.

4. Practice self-care regularly.

Eat well, move your body, rest, and do things that bring you joy—even small ones like reading, walking, or listening to music.

5. Forgive yourself.

You’ve done things you regret. That’s part of growth. You’re allowed to change and be kind to the person you were.

6. Surround yourself with people who uplift you.

The way others treat you often shapes how you treat yourself. Choose relationships that reflect the love you’re learning to give yourself.

7. Celebrate your progress.

Growth is rarely a straight line. Recognize every step forward, no matter how small.


Loving yourself is a journey, not a destination. You don’t have to feel it all the time. But the more you practice, the more it becomes part of how you live. Great 🌱 Let’s start with both a journaling prompt and a daily affirmation to gently build self-love over time.


🌿 Journaling Prompt (for Today)


“What are three things I like or appreciate about myself that have nothing to do with achievement or productivity?”

I have a warm smile. I’m patient with people. I make my friends feel comfortable. I am kind and warm to others. 


🌞 Daily Affirmation


“I am enough exactly as I am. I treat myself with the same kindness I give to others.”


Repeat this aloud in the mirror, write it on a sticky note, carry it with you during the day.


🪞 Daily Journaling Prompt – Day 2


“What do I need right now—emotionally, mentally, or physically—and how can I give a little of that to myself today?”


 drinking water, gardening,, reassurance,  exercise , connection, going out shopping. Daily Devotion. 5 minutes Meditation . Learning 古轸. Take it out and prepare. The key is listening inward.


🌼 Daily Affirmation – Day 2


“I am allowed to take up space. My needs matter, and I honor them with care.”


Say it to yourself gently. Let it sink in.


Here’s your Evening Reflection for tonight 🌙


“What’s one small way I showed up for myself today, even if no one else noticed?”

 Exercise , do pull-ups. Acknowledge it. It matters.


💬 Evening Affirmation


“Today, I did enough. I am enough. I give myself permission to rest and receive love.”


You can repeat this as you settle in for the night. Let it soften the edges of your day.Toyota 





Sunday, August 20, 2023

Living from inside out

Act of righteousness by wrong motives leads to self righteousness.

Going to church, pray, serve, etc. 

 John 5:44 How can ye believe, which receive honour one of another, and seek not the honour that cometh from God only? 44 How can you believe, when you receive glory from one another and do not seek the glory that comes from the only God?

The Holiness movement/church is an influence within Christianity that teaches that a person can achieve perfect holiness, or sinless perfection, while on earth. This doctrine teaches “entire sanctification,” which usually comes via a spiritual experience that those in the Holiness movement refer to as the “second work of grace” or the “second blessing.” The Holiness movement is opposed by Reformed thinkers, who assert that original sin still exists in even the most faithful person.

The Holiness movement began in 1840 when a Methodist leader named Phoebe Palmer began to hold revivals and teach the necessity of holiness—and how to attain it. Groups and denominations historically associated with the Holiness movement include Wesleyans, Methodists, Nazarenes, and the Salvation Army. However, it should be noted that churches differ widely on doctrine, even within denominations. The Holiness movement did have a profound effect on the history of the church, particularly in North America during the Third Great Awakening. Holiness adherents are typically interested in obedience to the Law and see their obedience as a way to gain closeness to God and greater spirituality.

While holiness is a biblical mandate and something every believer should strive for (Hebrews 12:14), those in the Holiness movement typically leave out an important detail: the fact that absolute holiness is impossible to attain. Perfection, sinlessness, and a holy life are not within man’s power to achieve. This idea is backed up by the Bible in numerous passages, most notably in the book of Romans. Paul’s argument in the first part of Romans is that man is fallen and unable to make himself follow the Law. In addition, it could be said that the whole history of Israel, with its repeated failures, is an object lesson about man’s inability to achieve holiness through the Law.

The Holiness movement is related to Pentecostalism in that it says that God helps the believer by giving him the “second blessing” of His Spirit. The “second blessing,” according to Holiness teaching, seals the believer in a sinless state. Unfortunately, a “sinless state” is not supported by either the Bible or human experience. While an emotional experience can make one feel that holiness is possible and that we never want to sin again, we still live in the flesh, and the flesh is still beset with weakness (Romans 7:14–19). Even the apostle Paul was unable to be completely sinless, and he admitted as much, saying that the old law of sin was still alive in his body, even though he served God in his mind and spirit (Romans 7:21–23). Elsewhere, Paul mentions a “thorn” in his flesh, making him rely on God’s strength instead of his own weakness (2 Corinthians 12:7). Near the end of his life, when by all accounts he should have been the most holy, Paul called himself the chief of sinners (1 Timothy 1:15). Had Paul not received the second blessing? Or perhaps there is no second blessing resulting in sinlessness. The fact is that none of the apostles ever hinted at the possibility that man can achieve “entire sanctification,” and there is no mention in the Bible of a “second blessing” of the Spirit.

Christians do sin (1 John 1:5–10), but, hopefully, less and less as we mature in Christ (Philippians 3:12). The Holiness movement is wrong in its assumption that a believer can keep enough rules to attain sinless perfection in this world.

Mathew 6 “Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6: 

Saturday, March 18, 2023

祷告会

感谢主今天早上让我们在一起学习祷告与我们同在。 我们每天都有永远忙不完担心不完的事情,求神让我们感恩我们所拥有的,不去苦苦追求祢以外的事物,而是专注在神的旨意、让我们每天都能被祢奇妙的爱而充满喜悦平安。做任何事情都去求祢告你的旨意,把我的忧虑、重担都卸给祢,天天靠你 而活,不再忙碌忧虑,而去享受你 的同在,听见祢的声音,胜过我自己与世上一切的声音。奉主耶稣基督的名祷告,阿们!

Tuesday, February 14, 2023

Prayer for my daughter

Dear God, my father in heaven, Thank you for my beautiful daughter. She is your creation. You know every detail about her. Work in her heart so she can respond to your love. Give her an unshakable faith in Jesus—HE is your Son sent to seek and save the lost. You’ve Claimed her as your own. Wrote her name on your hands. Put your seal on her. Give her eternal life so no one can snatch her out of your hand. Thank you that my daughter and I can grow together. Put words in my mouth that speak your message in terms she can understand. Use me as your messenger of hope as I share my own faith story and live for you every day. Help me to abide in you and live faithfully so she sees your power in me. Help me to cherish my daughter the same way that you devote yourself to me. May I imitate your faithfulness, wisdom, and unconditional love. Fill me with your compassion and understanding. May I never stop praising your name for the gift of my daughter. Pray in Jesus name, Amen.

Thursday, February 2, 2023

2Samuel 12 — 撒母耳记下 12

大卫是神拣选的王,耶稣基督是神的儿子,也是三位一体的神,是童女圣母玛利亚所生,是大卫的子孙。 这样被神祝福和爱护的人,都可以犯不可饶恕的罪(奸淫,杀人夺妻,欺骗..)还可以被神饶恕,被神祝福(但是也得到惩罚)。我们没有任何理由放弃自己,一定要到神的面前,求神饶恕我们的罪,得到神的赦免和祝福……不要去犯罪。 撒母耳记下 12 12 耶和华差遣拿单到大卫那里。拿单到了他那里,对他说:“在一座城里有两个人,一个是富翁,一个是穷人。 2 富翁有极多的牛群羊群; 3 穷人除了所买来养活的一只小母羊之外,一无所有。小羊在他家里和他儿女一同长大,吃他所吃的,喝他所喝的,睡在他怀中,在他看来如同女儿一样。 4 有一客人来到这富翁那里,富翁舍不得从自己的牛群羊群中取一只招待来到他那里的旅客,却取了穷人的小母羊,招待来到他那里的人。” 5 大卫就非常恼怒那人,对拿单说:“我指着永生的耶和华起誓,做这事的人该死! 6 他必须偿还小母羊四倍,因为他做这事,没有怜悯的心。” 7 拿单对大卫说:“你就是那人!耶和华—以色列的 神如此说:‘我膏你作以色列的王,我救你脱离扫罗的手; 8 我将你主人的家业赐给你,将你主人的妃嫔交在你怀里,又将以色列和犹大家赐给你;若还嫌少,我也会如此这般加倍赐给你。 9 你为什么藐视耶和华的命令,做他眼中看为恶的事呢?你用刀击杀赫人乌利亚,又娶了他的妻子为妻,借亚扪人的刀杀死他。 10 现在刀剑必永不离开你的家,因你藐视我,娶了赫人乌利亚的妻子为妻。’ 11 耶和华如此说:‘看哪,我必从你家中兴起灾祸攻击你;我必在你眼前把你的妃嫔赐给你身边的人,他要在光天化日下与你的妃嫔同寝。 12 你在暗中做那事,我却要在以色列众人面前,在日光之下做这事。’” 13 大卫对拿单说:“我得罪耶和华了!”拿单说:“耶和华已经除去你的罪,你必不至于死。 14 只是在这事上,你大大藐视耶和华[a],因此,你生的孩子必定要死。” 15 拿单就回家去了。 大卫的儿子夭折 耶和华击打乌利亚的妻子为大卫生的孩子,他就得了重病。 16 大卫为这孩子恳求 神。大卫刻苦禁食,到里面去,躺在地上过夜。 17 他家中的老臣来到他旁边,要把他从地上扶起来,他却不肯,也不同他们吃饭。 18 到第七日,孩子死了。大卫的臣仆不敢告诉他孩子死了,因他们说:“看哪,孩子还活着的时候,我们劝他,他尚且不听我们的话,我们怎么能告诉他孩子死了,让他做出不好的事呢?” 19 大卫见臣仆彼此低声说话,就知道孩子死了。他问臣仆说:“孩子死了吗?”他们说:“死了。” 20 大卫就从地上起来,沐浴,抹膏,换了衣服,进耶和华的殿敬拜。然后他回宫,吩咐人为他摆饭,他就吃了。 21 臣仆对他说:“你所做的是什么事呢?孩子活着的时候,你为他禁食哭泣;孩子死了,你却起来吃饭。” 22 大卫说:“孩子还活着,我禁食哭泣,因为我想,或许耶和华怜悯我,会让孩子活下来。 23 现在孩子死了,我何必禁食呢?我能使他回来吗?我必往他那里去,他却不能回到我这里来。” 所罗门出生 24 大卫安慰他的妻子拔示巴,与她同房,她就生了儿子,给他起名叫所罗门。耶和华喜爱他, 25 就藉拿单先知赐他一个名字,叫耶底底亚[b];这是为了耶和华的大衛生命中的這件事告訴我們,每個人,甚至那些我們非常尊敬的人,都在與罪作鬥爭。 它同時也 作為 一個關於誘惑 以及 罪惡如此快速增長的警示故事。 先知拿單就 他與 拔示巴所犯的罪 和 大衛當面對質。 大衛 以 悔改 作為回應 。 這時他寫了詩篇 51 。 在這裡我們看到了大衛的謙卑和他對 神 的真誠。 雖然 拿單對大衛說他兒子必因這罪 而死。 但 大衛卻為他兒子的性命懇求耶和華。 大衛與神的關係是這樣的,他願意堅持信心,並盼望神會寬容。 當神施行他的審判時,大衛完全接受了 它 ( 撒母耳記下 12) 。 在這個故事中,我們也看到了 神 的恩典和主權。 大衛的兒子所羅門接續他作王 , 他是大衛和拔示巴所生 , 耶穌是他的後裔 。 神又藉拿單對大衛說,這刀必不離他的家。 從那時起,大衛的家就多有困難。 我們在大衛兒女中 看 見了這事 , 暗嫩玷辱他瑪, 導致 押沙龍 謀殺暗嫩 , 並且 押沙龍 密謀反叛大衛 。 拿單又告訴大衛說,要將他的妻給他親近的人 ; 這事不像大衛與拔示巴在暗中所犯的罪,卻 是 在眾人面前行。 當 押沙龍和他父的妃嬪睡在房頂上,叫眾人看見,這預言就應驗了 ( 撒母耳記下 16)。 大衛是許多詩篇的作者。 我們在 它 們身上看見他 如何 尋求 並 榮耀 神 。 他經常被認為是牧人 王者以及 戰 場 詩人。 聖經稱他為"以色列的美歌者說" ( 撒母耳記 下 23:1) 。 大衛的一生似乎充滿了人類的各種情緒——一個普通的牧童,對神的信實充滿信心,他尊敬權威,逃命, 作王與 未來以色列諸王的敵人 爭戰 。 他 見證 了許多軍事勝利。 他也犯了嚴重的罪,他的家人因此受苦。 在這一切的事上,大衛都歸向神,倚靠他。 甚至 在詩篇中,當大衛灰心喪氣的時候,我們看見他仰望造他的主, 並 讚美他。 這種對 神 的依賴 以及不斷 追求與 神 的 關係是大衛成為一個合 神 心意 之 人的部分原因。 神應許大衛 的 後裔要 永遠 作王。 那永遠的王是耶穌,彌賽亞, 是 大衛的 子孫 。

Wednesday, January 18, 2023

《罪与罚》与基督教信仰 “Crime and Punishment “ and Christianity

我年轻时候读过这本书,但基本没有读懂。现已过中年,再拿起这本书,发现豁然开朗了。这几天一直在想,作者Dostoevsky真正想告诉我们的是什么呢?做了二十多年基督徒的我,看到的是一条基督救赎主线条。

其实,很多人在人生的某一个瞬间都有过像主人公Rodion Raskolnikov一样的 “某人应该死了对大家更好” 的念头。所以,主人公Raskolnikov想杀了放高利贷的老婆子,他的想法可以得到大家的认可。其他人,比如那个学生也有同样的想法。但是,想法和用斧头把两个人砍死了是一个质的改变。….. 想到现在很多杀人狂魔的心里变化也不是一朝一夕形成的。我身边也有这样自己遇到不公或者看不惯世间的罪恶就想把这些人杀了的人。想着真的是后怕!从这些想法到付诸行动,是一个漫长的过程,而且需要层层的催化剂。 如果一层催化计没有实现,也许不会付诸行动。 作者Dostoevsky可以说是犯罪心理学的鼻祖。

Raskolnikov 从离开基督教,没落无助,杀人犯罪,然后找借口,自责,悔恨,颓废,疯狂,最后遇到了索尼娅,是耶稣基督的救赎堕落的我们,她代表着至高无上的圣洁与救赎,确是社会上人人歧视的妓女,如同耶稣基督被我们这些罪人唾弃,折磨,活活钉死在十字架上。这是为耶稣基督为了我们的罪替我们而死,让信他 的人不会因罪儿死(永远离开了神,在地狱里挣扎),反得永生(回到天国神的国度)。

其实,很多人在人生的某一个瞬间都有过项主人公一样的 “某人应该死了对大家更好” 的念头。所以,主人公陀思妥耶夫斯基想杀了放高利贷的老婆子,他的想法可以得到大家的认可。其他人,比如那个学生也有同样的想法。但是,想法和用斧头把两个人砍死了是一个质的改变。….. 想到现在很多杀人狂魔的心里变化也不是一朝一夕形成的。我身边也有这样自己遇到不公或者看不惯世间的罪恶就想把这些人杀了的人。想着真的是后怕!从这些想法到付诸行动,是一个漫长的过程,而且需要层层的催化剂。 如果一层催化计没有实现,也许不会付诸行动。 作者陀思妥耶夫斯基可以说是犯罪心理学的鼻祖。

陀思妥耶夫斯基 从离开基督教,没落无助,杀人犯罪,然后找借口,自责,悔恨,颓废,疯狂,最后遇到了索尼娅,是耶稣基督的救赎堕落的我们,她代表着至高无上的圣洁与救赎,确是社会上人人歧视的妓女,如同耶稣基督被我们这些罪人唾弃,折磨,活活钉死在十字架上。这是为耶稣基督为了我们的罪替我们而死,让信他 的人不会因罪儿死(永远离开了神,在地狱里挣扎),反得永生(回到天国神的国度)。


作者认为拉斯柯尔尼科夫的犯罪行是因为他抛弃了对上帝的信仰所致。


陀思妥耶夫斯基是一位具有浓厚宗教意识的作家,希望借宗教来拯救人类,他透过人物塑造,分析了“自我惩罚”的宗教心理,让人深切反省。而陀思妥耶夫斯基的宗教思想中,存在着内在矛盾,亦即既对上帝有狂热的信仰,认为“没有信仰便是罪”,却又抱持怀疑的态度。此一思想上的矛盾,对文学创作产生深刻影响,成为贯穿其小说的一条思想主线,乃陀思妥耶夫斯基小说的一大特色。[3]


《罪与罚》中人物心灵的平衡点是基督教,是上帝的信仰与救赎。陀思妥耶夫斯基寄予他们的理想是是通过“罪与罚”来表现一种拯救意识,这个母题的模式是:在原罪的基础上又去犯罪,结果自我受罚,在苦难中去忏悔,终得救。从罪到赎的过程中,有一个罚的阶段,作者并没有直接去说赎罪,而是重点写罚,因为在整个作品中,作者有意识地向人们告诫,人要彻底认识到自己的堕落,就必须对罪恶有一个清醒的认识,这个认识中夹杂着人的道德自知和善的愿望。罚的心路历程本身就是一个心灵反思与徘徊的过程。因此人要在善恶的较量中去自我受罚,从而在痛苦的受难中确立真正的价值观。


即人对自我罪恶的认识远比救赎本身更有意义,更具启示性。罪恶是人内在特质的一部分。圣经里描述道:“常行善而不犯罪的义人,世上实在是没有。”

《罪与罚》中,差不多每个人都是有罪的,(圣经说,我们世人都犯了罪)不论是“被欺凌与被侮辱的”的下层人,还是所谓掠夺者的上层人。从老太婆的妹妹莉扎韦塔到警察官波尔菲里,从放高利贷者阿廖娜到极端自私者卢仁,从卖淫救全家的索妮娅到把女儿杜尼娅许配给卢仁的普里赫里娅,从酗酒失业的马尔梅拉多夫到逼迫女儿卖淫的卡捷琳娜,从为情欲所困的斯维德里盖洛夫到杀人抢劫的拉斯柯尔尼科夫,甚至从怀有嫉妒恶心的玛尔法到为了哥哥不借献出自己的杜尼娅等等皆是如此。圣经中创世纪中,因为亚当的源罪,每一个人都有罪性,都会犯罪,每一位基督徒都有深深的原罪感。

陀思妥耶夫斯基自身的苦难经历,使得他的创作中存有大量的宗教原罪意识,并以此为依托去寻求精神上的突破。他以小说的方式告诫人们,人需要认清自己,回归上帝,以免误入歧途。

尽管罪在《罪与罚》中呈现出不同的形式,但小说中的人物多是有罪的,不论是善良人还是介于善恶之间的人。陀思妥耶夫斯基的用意在于,通过对不同的罪人的描述,说明我们是生活在一个有罪的世界里,因此人心背负着重大的痛苦,人们在道德与良心之间发生着冲突,在行善与作恶之间交锋。

若不注重对罪的处理,人就要背叛上帝从而走向疯狂或毁灭拉斯柯尔尼科夫的最终皈依上帝和斯维德里盖洛夫最后的自杀都证明了这样一个真理:人不可能战胜上帝,不可能战胜内心深处的宗教精神和道德意识。陀思妥耶夫斯基道出了“罪与罚”的意义,“能使罪人本身得到改造,重新做人,那就唯有反映在人的良心中的基督的法则。”


宗教机制在小说中起了一个非常重要的作用。宗教代表了一种超我的至善理想,具有形而上的意味,能激励着人们弃恶从善,从罪恶中超越。拉斯柯尔尼科夫天性本恶,在自己的非凡的人理论和自己所谓善的理想下去杀人,以致犯下罪恶,使心灵失去依托,精神和肉体上承受着巨大痛苦。但他最终在上帝这一至善之光的照耀下,背负起沉重的十字架赎罪,通过忏悔和苦难,在对上帝的信仰中实现了自我的超越。[4]


“罪”是全书的开头,仅占一章,从第二章到第六章和尾声,作家写的全是“罚”。


“罪”:作家以相当大篇幅写“罪”的动机和“罪”的准备。对罪的胆怯,使他时而打消念头,但是,自己的贫困生活和触目皆是的社会不公,被逼的犯罪和冠冕堂皇的犯罪又不断推动这个动机。作家细致地写出了主人公作案动机发展演变的一切细枝末节,其细致的程度在文学史上是罕见的。由于作家切身的贫困经验和苦役经历,其描写能使读者十分真切地感受到主人公情绪压抑、精神恍惚等各种心理状态。在种种动机的推动下,拉斯柯里尼科夫终于抄起斧子杀死了贪婪无耻、盘剥别人的阿廖娜,整整一章,作家详细地描写了杀人的全过程和杀人后的躲藏。这样残酷的场面,在文学史上也是罕见的。其描写效果格外逼真,甚至能引起读者的某种生理反应,让人恶心,让人惊魂难定。这既是现实主义的伟大笔法,又是后来现代主义文学专门刻划恶的写作特征的鼻祖。


“罚”:

A、逃避惩罚。拉斯柯里尼科夫杀人之后,很快被列为重要嫌疑人,然而,他一方面把罪证掩盖得干干净净,另一方面利用反侦察的知识,与此案侦察员周旋,一次次度过险关,最后,案情突变,另有人自首,承认是此案的元凶。然而,拉斯柯里尼科夫心里一直明知自己才是此案的真正凶手。


B、 罚的含义。犯罪之后,拉斯柯里尼科夫从精神到肉体从未间断过“罪”的折磨,摆在他面前的有两条路,要么证明杀人是一种对抗不公平社会的合理行动,要么承认罪恶,接受惩罚。这种思考的折磨比侦察员的盘问要沉重得多。与侦察员周旋,甚至有一种斗智的愉快,而与心灵问题争论却让他精神崩溃。除了精神上的折磨外,罚还指自首后的服刑。


C、 罚导向救赎。索尼娅遭受商人卢仁陷害,她更有理由否定社会、否定法律、否定道德、否定良心、否定上帝,果真如此,拉斯柯里尼科夫便有了一个佐证,认为自己的杀人是合理的。但是,索尼娅在命运的不断打击下,仍然坚持她的基督教信仰,对上帝的信念,坚信天理不灭。索尼娅的选择让拉斯柯里尼科夫彻底缴械,于是他向索尼娅坦白自己的罪行,在索尼娅的鼓励下,他又在广场向社会、向人群承认自己的罪行,然后去自首,去服刑。从向索尼娅一人认罪,到向广场上的众人认罪,向上帝认罪,拉斯柯里尼科夫的灵魂终于摆脱煎熬,从而走向了解脱和救赎。


总之,在小说的罪,不是指有罪恶的念头之类的,而是指确实有杀人的行为。拉斯柯尔尼科夫杀人的一个动机是生活所迫,更大的动机是想当非凡的人,一种革命的思想、理由。罚是良心对人的真正的谴责;以及重重矛盾在索尼娅的“爱”中得以解决,让主人公重新皈依上帝,完成了从罪到罚到救赎的全过程。


小说反映的主题具有现实意义:人们愿意去接受基督,其最终目的是为了人自己,因为这样可以给人找到一个精神上的支撑点,罪可以得到上帝的赦免,还可以回到上帝的怀抱得到永生的生命。于是,在以基督教为背景的文化语境中,西方作家正视人的局限性、不足和致恶性,倡导人在破除恶性的过程中虔诚向上帝,弃恶从善。这样,人类就以接受苦难的方式来赎罪得救,在与罪恶激烈的抗争中发展和完善自己,从而使“罪与罚”母题变得丰富和深刻。

“罪与罚”母题研究深化了“人”的问题意识,突出了人类的精神存在价值。陀思妥耶夫斯基对“罪与罚”的
独到认识,打破了纯宗教意义的“罪与罚”面貌,同时又推出全新的基督教信仰。

Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Hit The rock bottom

Many of us discover who really loves us only when we hit the rock bottom.

It was 1999, I was a student studying in De Anza college in San Jose California. My Husband in China called for divorce with no room for discussion. I was devastated and felt my world clasped. I cried days and nights and also got shingles on my face and head. The unbearable pain from the shingles as well as my broken heart made me feel there was no meaning to move on my life. However, I couldn’t leave behind my 5 yr old son. One evening I was in such bad pain and felt hopelessly in my apartment, I saw a little Boucher in my backpack which I took from the billboard in school. I couldn’t remember what it said on the Boucher but I found the last line said if you needed any help please call ISI at the phone number. I called that number and the person on another line told me they were coming to meet me in campus immediately. About a hour later, I met a young couple. They amsaid they are Leon and Hope. They said sorry for the delay that they came from Fremont (50 minutes away) and needed to find the baby sitter for their sons. I was so much touched and couldn’t believe a stranger could drop everything and drive this far to help ME. I poured out my sorrows, my pain, my sadness, and my fears and hopeless. They were listening and handing me the tissues. My tears poured out like water fountain, A box of tissue ran out, so Hope immediately went to a bathroom and took a roll of toilet paper for me. After I calmed down, they said to me, Paula, do you know there was God who had been caring about you and watching over you all the time, and HE knows your sorrows and pain? What? Really? I was surprised. I was hopeless and couldn’t believe there would be anyone who would love me and care about me. Then, they said, ‘do you want to invite God into your life?’ I nodded my head very hard and said ‘Yes! Yes!’  Leon and Hope were so happy that their eyes filled with tears and asked me to pray with them. Since that evening, my shingles were healed and my life back to normal. Leon and Hope then brought me to a students bible study group where I met Steve and Mr and Mrs. Stephan and Steven Moen who working for the International student group. They leaded me the way to see Jesus and understood the salvation from the lord our God.  

I graduated in Dec 2000 during the Dotcom crash Major in Computer science. Almost all the tech companies were laying off employees and lots of bankruptcies around the country. I desperately needed to get a job so I would be able to get my son to the US to reunion with me. I hadn’t seen him for about 4 years. Many brothers and sisters in Christ had been praying for me. Mrs. Josephine taught me how to fasting and praying. At the end of 3 day meditation, praying and fasting, a job offer came to my email box. I got the computer programmer job in Albany NY and moved there in March 2001 and my son and I finally got reunion after we separated for four years. Now I have been here for 22 years. I got  married in 2005 and my husband and I have been bringing up three beautiful children and also my mother who is 85 now has been part of our family since my father died in 2017.


Monday, January 16, 2023

Prayers for my family

Dear Heavenly Fathers, 

I Pray for my husband Steve, my children Jing ,Holcy ,and linlin and my mother and my extended family for their faith in God and for their happiness and great health. For Jing to success and prosper and help him when he struggles in his life, work or finances . For holcy has a harmony marriage and happy family and please help them when they struggle. For my mother to be healthy. For Steve and I work together on our marriage and build a healthy relationship and family environment for our children and ourselves.

Dear Father in Heaven, I Pray For My daughter to continue her hard working and doing her best in school. please continue supporting her, for her faith, for school works, for social communication, and empathy. She is the beautiful masterpiece of your creation. Father, Please help me to do everything I can to coach her to help her and to grow with her in Your way not my own way. Please correct me if I do wrong things. Please clear her eyes so she can see your way. Please hold her hand and hug her tight when she need comfort and support. I pray in Jesus name amen 🙏   

Sunday, January 15, 2023

Find who you are

 Great inspiration:

https://youtu.be/vTPVs3VXBRw

Perhaps you don’t recognize who you are. God created you with HIS image. You are God’s masterpiece. There is greatest in you.  There is leadership in you. There is talent, creativity in you. There is wisdom in you. You have ideas, dreams.  Don’t overlook yourself. Don’t let someone else tell you who you are. Don’t discount who you are. Do something awesome. GOD designated you to leave you a remark.  When you reach out to God,  God will step in to give you the blessings, the ability, the favor, and take your hand to go where you can’t go by your own.


Finding God in your depression 6



 “Let me hear in the morning of your steadfast love, for in you I trust. Make me know the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭143‬:‭8‬ ‭ESV‬‬

These days good news is a scarce commodity… at least so it seems. If you’re like me, you’re up-to-date on all the ills happening in and around your neighborhood and across the sea. None of it uplifts our spirits. And if we’re not careful, the everyday negative happenings contribute to the emotional weight we already carry. But Luke brings us good news that, if embraced fully, points the way to our healing and deliverance.

dear God, although I still struggle to see the brighter side of each new day, thank you for glimmers of light that have come my way.

Luke 4:16-21

“And he came to Nazareth, where he had been brought up. And as was his custom, he went to the synagogue on the Sabbath day, and he stood up to read. And the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was given to him. He unrolled the scroll and found the place where it was written, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” And he rolled up the scroll and gave it back to the attendant and sat down. And the eyes of all in the synagogue were fixed on him. And he began to say to them, “Today this Scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing.”

Reflect

Jesus tells the people that the prophet Isaiah’s words, spoken centuries before this moment, have now come true. They point to a chosen deliverer who would come bringing the good news of the gospel, proclaiming freedom for those who are suffering and oppressed, and freeing those who are held captive in various ways. 

Ask God to give you courage to embrace the deliverance that Jesus brings.

Saturday, January 14, 2023

Finding God in your depression 5

 “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭40‬:‭28‬-‭29‬, ‭31‬ ‭ESV‬‬

https://bible.com/bible/59/isa.40.28-31.ESV

Sometimes even our trusted friends cannot be found when we are bowed down in heart and really need their help and encouragement. At other times we choose to carry our burdens alone to avoid others growing weary of us. The prophet Isaiah offers words of comfort grounded in the view that God is not like people. His wisdom is limitless, and he never grows weary or tired. Instead, the Creator of the whole earth gives strength when we need it most.   

Dear God, my father in heaven I’m weary in body, mind, and heart. I need my strength to be renewed.  Please come to my aid.  Read Isaiah describes God as incomparable.   

Isaiah 40:28-31  Reflect According to Isaiah, God does not get tired, his wisdom is limitless, and he strengthens the powerless. 

How can these ideas help you trust God to handle your confusion, bewilderment, pain or torment?

 Do you think God can be trusted to raise you up out of depression? 

Why or why not? 

Can you accept Isaiah’s claim that “Those who trust in the Lord for help will find their strength renewed” (verse 31 GNT)?  Respond Do some research on how eagles fly and then reread verse 31. Talk to God about strengthening you to wait on his help to soar beyond depression.


Friday, January 13, 2023

Finding God in your depression 4

Doing the list of things(on the previous post)you need to do everyday, patiently waiting for God’s work be done.

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 “I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the Lord.”

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭40‬:‭1‬-‭3‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Maybe you’re struggling to believe that a brighter day can come for you. You’ve gotten used to feeling down and out, lonely, misunderstood, and heartbroken. 

But imagine for a minute that things can change for the better. Imagine how your heart would be glad! 

I invite you into David’s experience, which gives us hope that God hears our cries for help and is willing to meet us at our lowest point. Like David, we can find ourselves in a new day, with a song on our lips and rejoicing in our hearts.    

Dear God, my Father in heaven, I want to be joyful. I want to believe that a new and brighter day can dawn for me. Help me believe.  

 David praises God for delivering him out of dark despair.  Psalm 40:1-3   David describes his circumstance as “a dangerous pit” and “deadly quicksand” (GNT). 

How would you describe where you are or how you feel? As David waited patiently on God things changed. He experienced God’s deliverance and was able “to sing a new song.” 

How can David’s testimony encourage you to wait patiently on God’s deliverance?  

 Ask God to give you the strength you need to wait for his deliverance. Even if you don’t feel like it, begin to sing in expectation of the change coming your way.



Thursday, January 12, 2023

Finding God in your depression 3

What are the God’s commands for taking care our physical body and lifting up our spirit? 

To combat the depression or the feelings of depressed, except the necessary medicines or alternative medicine like herbs and special diet, following God’s commands would be the most important thing to do. 

1. our physical body is God’s temple. God want us to take care of his temple, like exercising , walking , sunbathing, eating healthy, sleeping well, traveling, drawing , music, visiting friends etc. 

2. Fill our mind with God’s words, leave no room for anxiety or negative thoughts. Read the book of Jobs, daily Devotions, prayers, participate in the bible study and prayer groups, Christian conferences, helping others, etc.

One of the best sermons for empty out the negatives:

https://youtu.be/gRmi3cQ2hBw

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Perhaps you are now tired of the journey you’ve been on with depression. It’s been a roller-coaster ride that hurts so badly, perhaps you think not continuing life is better than moving forward. In the Scriptures, Job’s experience of intense suffering led him to regret the day of his birth. But his story doesn’t end there. Job begins to see God differently and it brings him hope and many blessings.  

Pray: Dear Heavenly Father, I don’t want to spend another day like this. Please change things for the better.   Job comes to the end of a long journey of pain and sorrow with a fresh perspective about God.  Job 3:11; 42:1-6, 12    At one point in Job’s life his torment is so severe that he wishes he had died in his mother’s womb. But after intense dialogue with his friends and with God, Job realizes that what others have told him about God doesn’t line up with his own experience with God. His conclusion is that God “can do all things” (ESV) including turning his dark days around. Do you believe God can do the same for you? Why or why not?   Write out Job 42:2 on a post it or in your journal. Make it a song and sing it to yourself when you feel low in spirit. 

“Why did I not die at birth, come out from the womb and expire?”Job‬ ‭3‬:‭11‬ ‭ESV‬‬

“Then Job answered the Lord and said: “I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted. ‘Who is this that hides counsel without knowledge?’ Therefore I have uttered what I did not understand, things too wonderful for me, which I did not know. ‘Hear, and I will speak; I will question you, and you make it known to me.’ I had heard of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees you; therefore I despise myself, and repent in dust and ashes.””

‭‭Job‬ ‭42‬:‭1‬-‭6‬ ‭ESV‬‬

“And the Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning. And he had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 yoke of oxen, and 1,000 female donkeys.”

‭‭Job‬ ‭42‬:‭12‬ ‭ESV‬‬

https://bible.com/bible/59/job.42.12.ESV


Wednesday, January 11, 2023

Finding God in your depression 2

Clinical depression

Requires a medical diagnosis 

The persistent feeling of sadness or loss of interest that characterizes major depression can lead to a range of behavioral and physical symptoms. These may include changes in sleep, appetite, energy level, concentration, daily behavior, or self-esteem. Depression can also be associated with thoughts of suicide.

Symptoms

Although depression may occur only once during your life, people typically have multiple episodes. During these episodes, symptoms occur most of the day, nearly every day and may include:

  • Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness
  • Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports
  • Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much
  • Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort
  • Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
  • Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
  • Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame
  • Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
  • Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide
  • Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches

For many people with depression, symptoms usually are severe enough to cause noticeable problems in day-to-day activities, such as work, school, social activities or relationships with others. Some people may feel generally miserable or unhappy without really knowing why.

Depression symptoms in children and teens

Common signs and symptoms of depression in children and teenagers are similar to those of adults, but there can be some differences.

  • In younger children, symptoms of depression may include sadness, irritability, clinginess, worry, aches and pains, refusing to go to school, or being underweight.
  • In teens, symptoms may include sadness, irritability, feeling negative and worthless, anger, poor performance or poor attendance at school, feeling misunderstood and extremely sensitive, using recreational drugs or alcohol, eating or sleeping too much, self-harm, loss of interest in normal activities, and avoidance of social interaction.

Depression symptoms in older adults

Depression is not a normal part of growing older, and it should never be taken lightly. Unfortunately, depression often goes undiagnosed and untreated in older adults, and they may feel reluctant to seek help. Symptoms of depression may be different or less obvious in older adults, such as:

  • Memory difficulties or personality changes
  • Physical aches or pain
  • Fatigue, loss of appetite, sleep problems or loss of interest in sex — not caused by a medical condition or medication
  • Often wanting to stay at home, rather than going out to socialize or doing new things
  • Suicidal thinking or feelings, especially in older men

When to see a doctor

If you feel depressed, make an appointment to see your doctor or mental health professional as soon as you can. If you're reluctant to seek treatment, talk to a friend or loved one, any health care professional, a faith leader, or someone else you trust.

Causes

It's not known exactly what causes depression. As with many mental disorders, a variety of factors may be involved, such as:

  • Biological differences. People with depression appear to have physical changes in their brains. The significance of these changes is still uncertain, but may eventually help pinpoint causes.
  • Brain chemistry. Neurotransmitters are naturally occurring brain chemicals that likely play a role in depression. Recent research indicates that changes in the function and effect of these neurotransmitters and how they interact with neurocircuits involved in maintaining mood stability may play a significant role in depression and its treatment.
  • Hormones. Changes in the body's balance of hormones may be involved in causing or triggering depression. Hormone changes can result with pregnancy and during the weeks or months after delivery (postpartum) and from thyroid problems, menopause or a number of other conditions.
  • Inherited traits. Depression is more common in people whose blood relatives also have this condition. Researchers are trying to find genes that may be involved in causing depression.

Risk factors

Depression often begins in the teens, 20s or 30s, but it can happen at any age. More women than men are diagnosed with depression, but this may be due in part because women are more likely to seek treatment.

Factors that seem to increase the risk of developing or triggering depression include:

  • Certain personality traits, such as low self-esteem and being too dependent, self-critical or pessimistic
  • Traumatic or stressful events, such as physical or sexual abuse, the death or loss of a loved one, a difficult relationship, or financial problems
  • Blood relatives with a history of depression, bipolar disorder, alcoholism or suicide
  • Being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, or having variations in the development of genital organs that aren't clearly male or female (intersex) in an unsupportive situation
  • History of other mental health disorders, such as anxiety disorder, eating disorders or post-traumatic stress disorder
  • Abuse of alcohol or recreational drugs
  • Serious or chronic illness, including cancer, stroke, chronic pain or heart disease
  • Certain medications, such as some high blood pressure medications or sleeping pills (talk to your doctor before stopping any medication)

Complications

Depression is a serious disorder that can take a terrible toll on you and your family. Depression often gets worse if it isn't treated, resulting in emotional, behavioral and health problems that affect every area of your life.

Examples of complications associated with depression include:

  • Excess weight or obesity, which can lead to heart disease and diabetes
  • Pain or physical illness
  • Alcohol or drug misuse
  • Anxiety, panic disorder or social phobia
  • Family conflicts, relationship difficulties, and work or school problems
  • Social isolation
  • Suicidal feelings, suicide attempts or suicide
  • Self-mutilation, such as cutting
  • Premature death from medical conditions

Diagnosis

Your doctor may determine a diagnosis of depression based on:

  • Physical exam. Your doctor may do a physical exam and ask questions about your health. In some cases, depression may be linked to an underlying physical health problem.
  • Lab tests. For example, your doctor may do a blood test called a complete blood count or test your thyroid to make sure it's functioning properly.
  • Psychiatric evaluation. Your mental health professional asks about your symptoms, thoughts, feelings and behavior patterns. You may be asked to fill out a questionnaire to help answer these questions.
  • DSM-5. Your mental health professional may use the criteria for depression listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), published by the American Psychiatric Association.

Types of depression

Symptoms caused by major depression can vary from person to person. To clarify the type of depression you have, your doctor may add one or more specifiers. A specifier means that you have depression with specific features, such as:

  • Anxious distress — depression with unusual restlessness or worry about possible events or loss of control
  • Mixed features — simultaneous depression and mania, which includes elevated self-esteem, talking too much and increased energy
  • Melancholic features — severe depression with lack of response to something that used to bring pleasure and associated with early morning awakening, worsened mood in the morning, major changes in appetite, and feelings of guilt, agitation or sluggishness
  • Atypical features — depression that includes the ability to temporarily be cheered by happy events, increased appetite, excessive need for sleep, sensitivity to rejection, and a heavy feeling in the arms or legs
  • Psychotic features — depression accompanied by delusions or hallucinations, which may involve personal inadequacy or other negative themes
  • Catatonia — depression that includes motor activity that involves either uncontrollable and purposeless movement or fixed and inflexible posture
  • Peripartum onset — depression that occurs during pregnancy or in the weeks or months after delivery (postpartum)
  • Seasonal pattern — depression related to changes in seasons and reduced exposure to sunlight

Other disorders that cause depression symptoms

Several other disorders, such as those below, include depression as a symptom. It's important to get an accurate diagnosis, so you can get appropriate treatment.

  • Bipolar I and II disorders. These mood disorders include mood swings that range from highs (mania) to lows (depression). It's sometimes difficult to distinguish between bipolar disorder and depression.
  • Cyclothymic disorder. Cyclothymic (sy-kloe-THIE-mik) disorder involves highs and lows that are milder than those of bipolar disorder.
  • Disruptive mood dysregulation disorder. This mood disorder in children includes chronic and severe irritability and anger with frequent extreme temper outbursts. This disorder typically develops into depressive disorder or anxiety disorder during the teen years or adulthood.
  • Persistent depressive disorder. Sometimes called dysthymia (dis-THIE-me-uh), this is a less severe but more chronic form of depression. While it's usually not disabling, persistent depressive disorder can prevent you from functioning normally in your daily routine and from living life to its fullest.
  • Premenstrual dysphoric disorder. This involves depression symptoms associated with hormone changes that begin a week before and improve within a few days after the onset of your period, and are minimal or gone after completion of your period.
  • Other depression disorders. This includes depression that's caused by the use of recreational drugs, some prescribed medications or another medical condition.

Treatment

Medications and psychotherapy are effective for most people with depression. Your primary care doctor or psychiatrist can prescribe medications to relieve symptoms. However, many people with depression also benefit from seeing a psychiatrist, psychologist or other mental health professional.

If you have severe depression, you may need a hospital stay, or you may need to participate in an outpatient treatment program until your symptoms improve.

Here's a closer look at depression treatment options.

Medications

Many types of antidepressants are available, including those below. Be sure to discuss possible major side effects with your doctor or pharmacist.

  • Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).Doctors often start by prescribing an SSRI. These drugs are considered safer and generally cause fewer bothersome side effects than other types of antidepressants. SSRIs include citalopram (Celexa), escitalopram (Lexapro), fluoxetine (Prozac), paroxetine (Paxil, Pexeva), sertraline (Zoloft) and vilazodone (Viibryd).
  • Serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs). Examples of SNRIs include duloxetine (Cymbalta), venlafaxine (Effexor XR), desvenlafaxine (Pristiq, Khedezla) and levomilnacipran (Fetzima).
  • Atypical antidepressants. These medications don't fit neatly into any of the other antidepressant categories. They include bupropion (Wellbutrin XL, Wellbutrin SR, Aplenzin, Forfivo XL), mirtazapine (Remeron), nefazodone, trazodone and vortioxetine (Trintellix).
  • Tricyclic antidepressants. These drugs — such as imipramine (Tofranil), nortriptyline (Pamelor), amitriptyline, doxepin, trimipramine (Surmontil), desipramine (Norpramin) and protriptyline (Vivactil) — can be very effective, but tend to cause more-severe side effects than newer antidepressants. So tricyclics generally aren't prescribed unless you've tried an SSRI first without improvement.
  • Monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs). MAOIs — such as tranylcypromine (Parnate), phenelzine (Nardil) and isocarboxazid (Marplan) — may be prescribed, typically when other drugs haven't worked, because they can have serious side effects. Using MAOIs requires a strict diet because of dangerous (or even deadly) interactions with foods ― such as certain cheeses, pickles and wines ― and some medications and herbal supplements. Selegiline (Emsam), a newer MAOI that sticks on the skin as a patch, may cause fewer side effects than other MAOIs do. These medications can't be combined with SSRIs.
  • Other medications. Other medications may be added to an antidepressant to enhance antidepressant effects. Your doctor may recommend combining two antidepressants or adding medications such as mood stabilizers or antipsychotics. Anti-anxiety and stimulant medications also may be added for short-term use.

Finding the right medication

If a family member has responded well to an antidepressant, it may be one that could help you. Or you may need to try several medications or a combination of medications before you find one that works. This requires patience, as some medications need several weeks or longer to take full effect and for side effects to ease as your body adjusts.

Inherited traits play a role in how antidepressants affect you. In some cases, where available, results of genetic tests (done by a blood test or cheek swab) may offer clues about how your body may respond to a particular antidepressant. However, other variables besides genetics can affect your response to medication.

Risks of abruptly stopping medication

Don't stop taking an antidepressant without talking to your doctor first. Antidepressants aren't considered addictive, but sometimes physical dependence (which is different from addiction) can occur.

Stopping treatment abruptly or missing several doses can cause withdrawal-like symptoms, and quitting suddenly may cause a sudden worsening of depression. Work with your doctor to gradually and safely decrease your dose.

Antidepressants and pregnancy

If you're pregnant or breast-feeding, some antidepressants may pose an increased health risk to your unborn child or nursing child. Talk with your doctor if you become pregnant or you're planning to become pregnant.

Antidepressants and increased suicide risk

Most antidepressants are generally safe, but the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) requires all antidepressants to carry a black box warning, the strictest warning for prescriptions. In some cases, children, teenagers and young adults under age 25 may have an increase in suicidal thoughts or behavior when taking antidepressants, especially in the first few weeks after starting or when the dose is changed.

Anyone taking an antidepressant should be watched closely for worsening depression or unusual behavior, especially when starting a new medication or with a change in dosage. If you or someone you know has suicidal thoughts when taking an antidepressant, immediately contact a doctor or get emergency help.

Keep in mind that antidepressants are more likely to reduce suicide risk in the long run by improving mood.

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is a general term for treating depression by talking about your condition and related issues with a mental health professional. Psychotherapy is also known as talk therapy or psychological therapy.

Different types of psychotherapy can be effective for depression, such as cognitive behavioral therapy or interpersonal therapy. Your mental health professional may also recommend other types of therapies. Psychotherapy can help you:

  • Adjust to a crisis or other current difficulty
  • Identify negative beliefs and behaviors and replace them with healthy, positive ones
  • Explore relationships and experiences, and develop positive interactions with others
  • Find better ways to cope and solve problems
  • Identify issues that contribute to your depression and change behaviors that make it worse
  • Regain a sense of satisfaction and control in your life and help ease depression symptoms, such as hopelessness and anger
  • Learn to set realistic goals for your life
  • Develop the ability to tolerate and accept distress using healthier behaviors

Alternate formats for therapy

Formats for depression therapy as an alternative to face-to-face office sessions are available and may be an effective option for some people. Therapy can be provided, for example, as a computer program, by online sessions, or using videos or workbooks. Programs can be guided by a therapist or be partially or totally independent.

Before you choose one of these options, discuss these formats with your therapist to determine if they may be helpful for you. Also, ask your therapist if he or she can recommend a trusted source or program. Some may not be covered by your insurance and not all developers and online therapists have the proper credentials or training.

Smartphones and tablets that offer mobile health apps, such as support and general education about depression, are not a substitute for seeing your doctor or therapist.

Hospital and residential treatment

In some people, depression is so severe that a hospital stay is needed. This may be necessary if you can't care for yourself properly or when you're in immediate danger of harming yourself or someone else. Psychiatric treatment at a hospital can help keep you calm and safe until your mood improves.

Partial hospitalization or day treatment programs also may help some people. These programs provide the outpatient support and counseling needed to get symptoms under control.

Other treatment options

For some people, other procedures, sometimes called brain stimulation therapies, may be suggested:

  • Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). In ECT, electrical currents are passed through the brain to impact the function and effect of neurotransmitters in your brain to relieve depression. ECT is usually used for people who don't get better with medications, can't take antidepressants for health reasons or are at high risk of suicide.
  • Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS). TMS may be an option for those who haven't responded to antidepressants. During TMS, a treatment coil placed against your scalp sends brief magnetic pulses to stimulate nerve cells in your brain that are involved in mood regulation and depression.

Lifestyle and home remedies

Depression generally isn't a disorder that you can treat on your own. But in addition to professional treatment, these self-care steps can help:

  • Stick to your treatment plan. Don't skip psychotherapy sessions or appointments. Even if you're feeling well, don't skip your medications. If you stop, depression symptoms may come back, and you could also experience withdrawal-like symptoms. Recognize that it will take time to feel better.
  • Learn about depression. Education about your condition can empower you and motivate you to stick to your treatment plan. Encourage your family to learn about depression to help them understand and support you. 
  • Pay attention to warning signs. Work with your doctor or therapist to learn what might trigger your depression symptoms. Make a plan so that you know what to do if your symptoms get worse. Contact your doctor or therapist if you notice any changes in symptoms or how you feel. Ask relatives or friends to help watch for warning signs.
  • Avoid alcohol and recreational drugs. It may seem like alcohol or drugs lessen depression symptoms, but in the long run they generally worsen symptoms and make depression harder to treat. Talk with your doctor or therapist if you need help with alcohol or substance use.
  • Take care of yourself. Eat healthy, be physically active and get plenty of sleep. Consider walking, jogging, swimming, gardening or another activity that you enjoy. Sleeping well is important for both your physical and mental well-being. If you're having trouble sleeping, talk to your doctor about what you can do.

Alternative medicine

Alternative medicine is the use of a nonconventional approach instead of conventional medicine. Complementary medicine is a nonconventional approach used along with conventional medicine — sometimes called integrative medicine.

Make sure you understand the risks as well as possible benefits if you pursue alternative or complementary therapy. Don't replace conventional medical treatment or psychotherapy with alternative medicine. When it comes to depression, alternative treatments aren't a substitute for medical care.

Supplements

Examples of supplements that are sometimes used for depression include:

  • St. John's wort. Although this herbal supplement isn't approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to treat depression in the U.S., it may be helpful for mild or moderate depression. But if you choose to use it, be careful — St. John's wort can interfere with a number of medications, such as heart drugs, blood-thinning drugs, birth control pills, chemotherapy, HIV/AIDS medications and drugs to prevent organ rejection after a transplant. Also, avoid taking St. John's wort while taking antidepressants because the combination can cause serious side effects.
  • SAMe. Pronounced "sam-E," this dietary supplement is a synthetic form of a chemical that occurs naturally in the body. The name is short for S-adenosylmethionine (es-uh-den-o-sul-muh-THIE-o-neen). SAMe isn't approved by the FDA to treat depression in the U.S. It may be helpful, but more research is needed. SAMe may trigger mania in people with bipolar disorder.
  • Omega-3 fatty acids. These healthy fats are found in cold-water fish, flaxseed, flax oil, walnuts and some other foods. Omega-3 supplements are being studied as a possible treatment for depression. While considered generally safe, in high doses, omega-3 supplements may interact with other medications. More research is needed to determine if eating foods with omega-3 fatty acids can help relieve depression.

Nutritional and dietary products aren't monitored by the FDA the same way medications are. You can't always be certain of what you're getting and whether it's safe. Also, because some herbal and dietary supplements can interfere with prescription medications or cause dangerous interactions, talk to your doctor or pharmacist before taking any supplements.

Mind-body connections

Integrative medicine practitioners believe the mind and body must be in harmony for you to stay healthy. Examples of mind-body techniques that may be helpful for depression include:

  • Acupuncture
  • Relaxation techniques such as yoga or tai chi
  • Meditation
  • Guided imagery
  • Massage therapy
  • Music or art therapy
  • Spirituality
  • Aerobic exercise

Relying solely on these therapies is generally not enough to treat depression. They may be helpful when used in addition to medication and psychotherapy.

Coping and support

Talk with your doctor or therapist about improving your coping skills, and try these tips:

  • Simplify your life. Cut back on obligations when possible, and set reasonable goals for yourself. Give yourself permission to do less when you feel down.
  • Write in a journal. Journaling, as part of your treatment, may improve mood by allowing you to express pain, anger, fear or other emotions.
  • Read reputable self-help books and websites.Your doctor or therapist may be able to recommend books or websites to read.
  • Locate helpful groups. Many organizations, such as the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, offer education, support groups, counseling and other resources to help with depression. Employee assistance programs and religious groups also may offer help for mental health concerns.
  • Don't become isolated. Try to participate in social activities, and get together with family or friends regularly. Support groups for people with depression can help you connect to others facing similar challenges and share experiences.
  • Learn ways to relax and manage your stress.Examples include meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, yoga and tai chi.
  • Structure your time. Plan your day. You may find it helps to make a list of daily tasks, use sticky notes as reminders or use a planner to stay organized.
  • Don't make important decisions when you're down. Avoid decision-making when you're feeling depressed, since you may not be thinking clearly.

Preparing for your appointment

You may see your primary care doctor, or your doctor may refer you to a mental health professional. Here's some information to help you get ready for your appointment.

What you can do

Before your appointment, make a list of:

  • Any symptoms you've had, including any that may seem unrelated to the reason for your appointment
  • Key personal information, including any major stresses or recent life changes
  • All medications, vitamins or other supplementsthat you're taking, including dosages
  • Questions to ask your doctor or mental health professional

Take a family member or friend along, if possible, to help you remember all of the information provided during the appointment.

Some basic questions to ask your doctor include:

  • Is depression the most likely cause of my symptoms?
  • What are other possible causes for my symptoms?
  • What kinds of tests will I need?
  • What treatment is likely to work best for me?
  • What are the alternatives to the primary approach that you're suggesting?
  • I have these other health conditions. How can I best manage them together?
  • Are there any restrictions that I need to follow?
  • Should I see a psychiatrist or other mental health professional?
  • What are the main side effects of the medications you're recommending?
  • Is there a generic alternative to the medicine you're prescribing?
  • Are there any brochures or other printed material that I can have? What websites do you recommend?

Don't hesitate to ask other questions during your appointment.

What to expect from your doctor

Your doctor will likely ask you a number of questions. Be ready to answer them to reserve time to go over any points you want to focus on. Your doctor may ask:

  • When did you or your loved ones first notice your symptoms of depression?
  • How long have you felt depressed? Do you generally always feel down, or does your mood fluctuate?
  • Does your mood ever swing from feeling down to feeling intensely happy (euphoric) and full of energy?
  • Do you ever have suicidal thoughts when you're feeling down?
  • Do your symptoms interfere with your daily life or relationships?
  • Do you have any blood relatives with depression or another mood disorder?
  • What other mental or physical health conditions do you have?
  • Do you drink alcohol or use recreational drugs?
  • How much do you sleep at night? Does it change over time?
  • What, if anything, seems to improve your symptoms?
  • What, if anything, appears to worsen your symptoms?
Pray 

God, I am anxious and fearful about many things. Show me how to relinquish my fears and rise above my anxiety.  Read The Scriptures tell us to rid ourselves of anxiety to lighten the heart.  Proverbs 12:25; Philippians 4:6-7  

Reflect According to the wise writer of Proverbs, anxiety is weighty. It weighs heavily on our hearts, causing depression. So how do we avoid becoming anxious? The apostle Paul writes to a group of Christians about one sure way. He tells them not to be anxious about anything but pray instead. Then, God will give incomprehensible peace to those who trust him. What do you think about this?  Respond Imagine yourself free of the anxiety that weighs you down. Draw or paint something that reflects that freedom. Ask God to make this freedom your reality.

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭12‬:‭25‬ ‭ESV‬‬

“do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭ESV

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